How To Be Yourself
To be or not to be that is the question. Are you yourself or not?
Bluntly, you are or not. One can ascertain from the morning to
evening that one is oneself without being oneself. Or one may
think that one is oneself though one is not. The question is are
Do you make your own decisions?
What is a decision?
How to make the right decision?
Do you always rely on others to make decisions for you?
Did anyone always make decisions for you without your
Tell me a time when you have made a correct decision on
Let me know when you refuse somebody's else decisions and
make your own.
Do you always consult another before making decisions?
How do others influence your behavior?
Would you rather please others than making decisions that
are right and overdue?
Do you see yourself as an individual?
Do you see yourself as a group, community, society or an
individual that belong to it?
Who are you?
Are you truly yourself?
Who would you rather be?
Do feel safer, stronger and bolder in a group?
Are you shy? How that shyness has helped you?
Is somebody else controlling your mind?
Do you prefer to be submissive?
Finally, how would you feel if you were yourself?
One more time, how would you feel if you were yourself?
Why You Should Be Yourself?
One of the reasons why one should be oneself is because
one is unique. You are a special person on the earth with a
unique potential and ability equal to none. You are
different though you may look like your parents. Your way of
seeing life or doing things is unique. This does not necessarily
make you superior to others, but it surely
differentiates you from many. Your goals are not the same.
You have unique principles that are dear to you. You will not
negotiate or deal with anyone that violates your fundamental
For example, the number one principle to somebody may be
fairness. To another, it may be compassion. He or she will not
show you any high regards if you are careless in anyway. For
others their number principle can be winning and they
will do everything to win. For them life is a competition and one
should always win at all cost. Surely, they are ready to adore
champions or winners. One should be oneself because one is
not a group or another.
One may belong to a group but one should never surrender
what one really is. One may be an active player of a team to
achieve a goal for the group but one must stay oneself while
taking the role of a player or member. The common danger is
that people very often stripped themselves from their real
persons as they act in a group. By doing so, they are easily
manipulated and end up doing things that are contrary to their
To Be Yourself
To be oneself, one must first recognize that one is the unique
leader of one's own universe.
One ought to understand also that one has the power to make
right decisions. To be oneself is also about making decisions.
One should never delegate that function to anyone else. One may
seek advice but one must always make the final decision or choice.
Furthermore, one can not be oneself if one does not take full
responsibility for one's deeds. To be yourself is not about being
alone but more about leading oneself in all circumstances.
It is also involves not blaming others for one's failures. To be oneself
is not about believing that one is God but more about being fully
accountable to your superiors or God. To be yourself is about taking
control of every aspect of your life in a responsible fashion. It is also
about recognizing that others are unique and respecting their space
without suppressing them. To be yourself is more about making sure
one fulfills the goal or destiny one is born for instead of living like a
To be yourself is also about knowing and understanding yourself
without doubt. If you say to me, you are an accountant, lawyer,
manager, police, judge or anything like that and I ask you what were
you before that? What will be the correct answer to that crucial question?
Remember that before you became you say you are today, you are
yourself. That is what you really are. You may put on beautiful titles
or mantles but first you are yourself.
To finish this, I would say when we lose what we truly are we become
worthless like a toilet paper. Be yourself and grow yourself on daily basis.