How To Be Yourself
To be or not to be that is the question. Are you yourself or not?
Bluntly, you are or not. One can ascertain from the morning to evening
that one is oneself without being oneself. Or one may think that one is oneself
though one is not. The question is are you yourself?
Do you make your own decisions?
What is a decision?
How to make the right decision?
Do you always rely on others to make decisions for you?
Did anyone always make decisions for you without your consent?
Tell me a time when you have made a correct decision on your own.
Let me know when you refuse somebody's else decisions and make your own.
Do you always consult another before making decisions?
How do others influence your behaviour?
Would you rather please others than making decisions that are right and overdue?
Do you see yourself as an individual?
Do you see yourself as a group, community, society or an individual that belong to it?
Who are you?
Are you truly yourself?
Who would you rather be?
Do feel safer, stronger and bolder in a group?
Are you shy? How that shyness has helped you?
Is somebody else controlling your mind?
Do you prefer to be submissive?
Finally, how would you feel if you were yourself?
One more time, how would you feel if you were yourself?
Why You Should Be Yourself?
One of the reasons why one should be oneself is because one is unique. You are a special person on the earth with a unique potential and ability equal to none. You are different though you may look like your parents. Your way of seeing life or doing things is unique. This does not necessarily make you superior to others, but it surely differentiates you from many. Your goals are not the same.
You have unique principles that are dear to you. You will not negotiate or deal with anyone that violates your fundamental principles.
For example, the number one principle to somebody may be fairness. To another, it may be compassion. He or she will not show you any high regards if you are careless in anyway. For others their number principle can be winning and they will do everything to win. For them life is a competition and one should always win at all cost. Surely, they are ready to adore champions or winners. One should be oneself because one is not a group
or another. One may belong to a group but one should never surrender what one really is. One may be an active player of a team to achieve a goal for the group but one must stay oneself while taking the role of a player or member. The common danger is that people very often stripped themselves from their real persons as they act in a group. By doing so, they are easily manipulated and end up
doing things that are contrary to their basic principles.
To Be Yourself
To be oneself, one must first recognise that one is the unique leader of one's own universe.
One ought to understand also that one has the power to make right decisions.
To be oneself is also about making decisions. One should never delegate that function to anyone else. One may seek advices but one must always make the final decision or choice.
Furthermore, one can not be oneself if one does not take full responsibility for one's deeds.
To be yourself is not about being alone but more about leading oneself in all circumstances.
It is also involves not blaming others for one's failures. To be oneself is not about believing that one is God but more about being fully accountable to your superiors or God. To be yourself is about taking control of every aspect of your life in a responsible fashion. It is also about recognising that others are unique and respecting their space without suppressing them. To be yourself is more about making sure one fulfils the goal or destiny one is born for instead of living like a slave.
To be yourself is also about knowing and understanding yourself without doubt.
If you say to me, you are an accountant, lawyer, manager, police, judge or anything like that and I ask you what were you before that? What will be the correct answer to that crucial question?
Remember that before you became you say you are today, you are yourself. That is what you really are. You may put on beautiful titles or mantles but first you are yourself. To finish this, I would say when we lose what we truly are we become worthless like a toilet paper.
Be yourself and grow yourself on daily basis.